Gratitude and Improved Relationship | Law of Attraction Question

improve-your-relationship-with-gratitude Gratitude & Relationship | Law of Attraction Question

Question

My husband drives me crazy! In the beginning he was so nice, but now I get easily annoyed with him. How can I improve my relationship with him?
 

Answer

When you are in a relationship, any type of relationship, it is easy to get “caught up” in what you don’t particularly like about the other person. In the beginning, one tends to enjoy the other person very much because whether you realize it or not, you tend to focus on the things you like in the other person. As a result, you get more of what you like from that person from a  Law of Attraction perspective. 
 
On the other end of the spectrum, when the person does something you do not like, there is a tendency towards continually focusing on that aspect of the person.  This is especially true, if what you do not like touches a deep-seated pattern of disgust from you. Meaning if a certain thing tends to “set you off” and the other person does it, there is a stronger tendency for you to dwell on it.
 
As we know from the Law of Attraction, what you focus on grows. Energy flows, where attention goes. Basically, if you add more energy by focusing on it, then you get more of it in your life. That continual focus, also “seats” the emotional energy even more deeply into your subconscious. Meaning you will tend to attract this type of behavior, whether you are consciously thinking about it or not because your subconscious mind is “thinking about it”. 
 
For instance, if the other person is continually late, and you focus on it by yelling, thinking about it, dwelling on it, talking to your friends about it, etc.; then you are positioning yourself to:
  1. See more of this in the other person
  2. Plant the pattern of getting annoyed when someone is late deeper into your subconscious thereby attracting more of it 
  3. See more activities of similar vibrations from that person and other people. This means that the activities of others will be a similar vibration to being late. As a result, you will have a stronger tendency to get annoyed with it as well.
 
Change your Habit
One way to release yourself of these patterns that can cause your relationship to become fractured, is to start focusing on the things which you are grateful for in that person. When you do this, you retrain your subconscious mind to focus on the positive. You then will start seeing more of that positive characteristic in your partner as well as in others. 
 
Note: Your focus on gratitude may or may not “save” your current relationship but it will offer you healing. This is because  you have chosen to “take the higher ground” and focus on gratitude. When you do this, you feel better and start attracting more positive relationships into your life. Your current partner may not be able to raise their vibration to your vibration and therefore will literally not resonate with you. At this point, it is up to you to choose what is more important for you. Is it more important to feel good and be emotionally/physically more healthy or is it more important to stay in the relationship? This is a decision you have to make. 
 
 
Examples of ways to Improve your Relationship with Gratitude
  • On a regular basis such as once a week or every day, make a gratitude list of all the things for which you are grateful about your partner. Keep it simple and just start writing. "I am grateful for my wife's smile, touch, passion, friendliness......etc. With practice, it will become easier and easier for the words to come to your head.  As you do this more and more, you will be reminded of why you love your partner so much and how you felt when you first met. You will also begin to notice those positive aspects appearing more and more in your relationship. It is the simple law of attraction.
  • Place your gratitude list that you create in a place that you see on a regular basis such as on the ceiling above your bed or on the refrigerator.  If you desire, you can replace it every time you redo it.
  • Make your gratitude list apart of your vision board.
 
Remember everything you do is a reflection of how you define yourself. Choose gratitude and you literally “tell the universe” I am grateful. Choose conflict and you “tell the universe”, I am conflict. Of course, this is a “black and white” scenario. Most of us are a combination of both. Having said that, you can “tip the scale” to being a more positive person by focusing more on the positive then on the negative.
 
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Shawngela Pierce

Written by : Shawngela Pierce

Shawngela is a Law of Attraction and Meditation coach. Her focus is to help people attain true health and wellbeing by using her gift to channel information to guide others. Schedule a session with Shawngela and find out how the power to heal lies within you.

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