Self-love for Relationships

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Self-Love for Relationship

When most people think of self-love, they assume this is something you do in order to get into a relationship with someone. Somehow the idea of continuing to nurture self-love gets lost for many people when they are in a relationship.

Regardless of whether or not you are actively in a relationship with someone else, you must cultivate a relationship with yourself! Love starts from within.

When you can cultivate this energy, then all your relationships take on a whole new characteristic. You won't need someone to make you feel worthy or loved. That love will come from within.

This is empowering for both you and your partner.

Now how is it empowering to your partner? First, it takes the burden off of them because you are not relying on their energy to “feed your lack of self-love."

What we mean by “feeding” is that whether you realize it or not, you have been relying on the energy of your partner to make you “feel whole”. When you can heal your self-love wounds then your partner is no longer placed in the position of savior. They are relieved of the burden of your disappointment or anger when they do not fulfill your ideal of them.

Second, it allows your partner the opportunity to explore, heal, and expand their own energy without trying or having to be something for the other person.

Each person can take a step forward towards true independence within a relationship. This means you are in the relationship for the mere enjoyment of it, not as a means to fulfill what you feel is lacking in you.

Now most people would not say that this is why they are in the relationship, but it is energetically, whether you realize it or not. If you have ever said or thought that your partner completes you, then you are. If you have ever felt, you would not survive without your partner, then you are.

Your partner cannot complete you because you are already whole. You have just told yourself a story or bought into the story that you are not whole without another person.

This is not a bad thing. There is no concept of good or bad from our perspective. There are just choices and opportunities for spiritual growth.

Relationships are powerful in the respect that you can “use” them to grow spiritually. They allow you to see the reflection of your vibrational energy and allow you the opportunity to heal. For instance, if you see that you get upset at your partner if they do not say “I love you” at certain times, then you can see there is something within you that “needs it”.

Now what most people try to do is get the other person to change to fulfill their needs, however, as a conscious creator, you can see this is an opportunity to heal this wound and release your partner of this burden. Then when they say “I love you”, you can feel it in a different way.

It is a beautiful and transformative experience when both partners are in this mindset.

Caveat

Now the picture we have painted here is of a relationship where both partners are evolving spiritually. In this way, the shift in the other will not cause unwelcome disturbances in the other.

For instance, let’s say you are in a relationship where one person takes on the role of providing for the other. Now let’s also say, the provider has identified deeply with this role and when the other person starts to become more self-reliant, they don’t get their “energetic needs” met, and start to feel like they are not needed.

Now the partners are not at the same vibrational frequency as they were when they met. The provider could resist the new vibration/change or they can adjust to it by healing their wound that causes them to “need” to feel needed.

As you can easily see, if both partners are not mutually trying to work on themselves and their relationship, then one person’s focus on healing, can cause turmoil that could lead to an ending of the relationship.

Again, this is not a good or bad situation. This turmoil awakens a choice for all involved. It awakens a choice of what you wish to do with your life, who you wish to become, and what type of your relationship you wish to have.

We shall say no more here but we trust that you understand the message. Continue to follow and we shall explore relationships in more detail.

In the meantime, here are a few topics to explore on the subject of relationships:

Closing Message

Spend time growing your self-love and coming home to who you are. In this, you will awaken a profound healing power within you and ultimately a relationship that is worthy of you.

Listen to our Podcast on Self-Love for Natural Healing.